'Do you feel sexually attracted to him?' Mistress Raquel Leviss grills BFF Ariana Madix on sex life with Tom Sandoval as couple struggle with intimacy... while THAT affair raged on in latest Vanderpump Rules

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Raquel Leviss fished for information from Ariana Madix about her sex life with Tom Sandoval on Wednesday's episode of Vanderpump Rules on Bravo.

The season 13 episode was filmed before Ariana, 37, found out that her longtime boyfriend Tom, 39, was having a months-long affair with Raquel, 28. 

Ariana during an event to preview her sandwich shop with Katie Maloney, 36, pulled Raquel aside for a drink to offer her support for her despite Katie being upset with Raquel for kissing her ex-husband Tom Schwartz, 40, in Mexico.

Raquel, however, changed the conversation back to Ariana.

'How are you and Sandoval?' Raquel asked.

Probing questions: Raquel Leviss fished for information from Ariana Madix about her sex life with Tom Sandoval on Wednesday's episode of Vanderpump Rules on Bravo

'We had a big argument last night,' Ariana confided. 'He feels like he is not being heard, which is why he's always the loudest person in the room.'

Raquel reminded Ariana that she once told her that they go through dry spells without having sex.

'You come home after working all night and you think you are going to just whip your d*** out and I'm going to be like ''yeah let's f***''. That's never going to happen,' Ariana said. 'You have to spend time together.'

'I feel like in a relationship you should want to have sex,' Raquel said.

'But you have to be emotionally intimate before you can be physically intimate, ' Ariana said.

'Do you feel like you are sexually attracted to him?' Raquel asked.

'Oh my god, I think he's so f***ing hot,' Ariana replied.

Ariana said she just did not feel as confident in her own body.

Showing support: Ariana during an event to preview her sandwich shop with Katie Maloney, pulled Raquel aside for a drink to offer her support amid her feuding with Katie

Talking attraction: 'Do you feel like you are sexually attracted to him?' Raquel asked Ariana

Not happening: 'You come home after working all night and you think you are going to just whip your d*** out and I'm going to be like ''yeah let's f***''. That's never going to happen,' Ariana said. 'You have to spend time together'

Relationship advice: 'I feel like in a relationship you should want to have sex,' Raquel said

'You don't look at my body and go ''yeah that's what I want, I want cellulite, fat thighs and a big a**'',' Ariana said.

Raquel got upset and said that Ariana was just in her own head.

'I do that to myself, too,' Raquel said. 'It's f***ed up.'

'Now that I'm single I think sex is a very important part of a healthy relationship,' Raquel said. 'Clearly you want to stay in this relationship.'

'Yeah I do,' Ariana said. 'I would not be having this conversation if this wasn't who I want to be with.'

Ariana said she just needed to talk about her relationship issues with Sandoval.

The episode titled There's Something About Her opened with Ariana and Katie meeting with Penny, a chef consultant, at the site of their future sandwich shop. They told Penny they wanted to have a tasting party to show people their new space.

Sandwich shop: The episode titled There's Something About Her opened with Ariana and Katie meeting with Penny, a chef consultant, at the site of their future sandwich shop

Ariana told Katie she wasn't upset after learning that Sandoval didn't leave a barbecue immediately when she called him and let him know her grandmother had died.

Charli Burnett, 26, and Raquel went shopping. Raquel said she had an awkward run in with Katie at Sur. She said it was also upsetting when James Kennedy, 31, told her that he never really loved her. Raquel said she knew that James would mess up his relationship with Ally Lewber, 27. 

Raquel then saw a lighting bolt chain in the jewelry case and asked the saleswoman if she could see it. Charli encouraged her to buy it.

Schwartz and Sandoval met at their new bar. Schwartz asked Sandoval how things were going with Ariana.

'I feel like sometimes just like my very presence annoys her,' Sandoval said.

'It seems like it may be a bigger issue,' Schwartz said.

'You never know what's going on behind closed doors but based on what I've seen, they just seem like they've devolved into roommates,' Schwartz said in a confessional. 'Seeing a lack of intimacy. When they hang out, they don't really acknowledge each other. It's not looking good.'

Later, Sandoval sat down with Ariana to discuss their issues.

Annoying presence: 'I feel like sometimes just like my very presence annoys her,' Sandoval told Schwartz as he talked about his relationship with Ariana

Bigger issue: 'It seems like it may be a bigger issue,' Schwartz said

Relationship talk: Later, Sandoval sat down with Ariana to discuss their issues

'It just sometimes feels lately that we haven't been as connected,' Sandoval said. 'There's been a lot of things that have been bothering me and stacking up and sort of swept under the rug and like my very presence f***ing annoys you.'

'You snap at me and you f***ing belittle me in front of people and that really f***ing hurts my feelings,' Sandoval said.

'But yet you're the only person that I'm constantly wanting to hang out with more and I never get to hang with you and have it be us,' Ariana said.

'I don't feel we are connected the way we should be,' Sandoval said.

'I agree with what you are saying about us not being connected,' Ariana said.

'I want us to be more intimate,' Sandoval said. 'Having sex like four times a year also affects me.'

'Okay well maybe you need to spend time with me because I cannot have sex with somebody who feels like a stranger,' Ariana said.

'To me, quality time is one on one, no distractions, no other people, like really focused on each other,' Ariana said in a confessional. 'I want that emotional and physical intimacy. You can't telepath your dick into a vagina from The Abbey.'

Quality time: 'Okay well maybe you need to spend time with me because I cannot have sex with somebody who feels like a stranger,' Ariana said

Stronger connection: 'To me, quality time is one on one, no distractions, no other people, like really focused on each other,' Ariana said in a confessional. 'I want that emotional and physical intimacy. You can't telepath your dick into a vagina from The Abbey'

Ariana said she wanted them to do things together like take a walk or to make dinner.

'That is your definition of quality time,' Sandoval said.

A producer asked Sandoval in a confessional what was his definition of quality time.

'Let's take mushrooms together and watch the sunrise,' Sandoval said in the confessional. 'Let's go skinny dipping in the pool. Let's go hang gliding.'

'I love you,' Sandoval told Ariana. 'I want us to be better.'

'I do, too,' Ariana said.

Sandoval went over to Schwartz's apartment to get ready for the party. Schwartz said there was a gossip blogger that was claiming he made out with Raquel again.

Quality definition: 'Let's take mushrooms together and watch the sunrise,' Sandoval said in a confessional when asked to define quality time. 'Let's go skinny dipping in the pool. Let's go hang gliding'

'That's insane,' Sandoval said.

'I would never have kissed Raquel had I known the fallout that was going to happen afterwards and how much it was going to hurt Katie,' Schwartz said in a confessional.

Schwartz and Sandoval both brought bouquets of flowers to the soft opening of Katie and Ariana's sandwich shop .

'Ariana and I have been together for nearly 10 years and obviously I love Ariana, but because of how different we are as people, we've kind of grown a little bit apart,' Sandoval said in a confessional. 'The issues that Ariana and I are having are not just her fault. They're mine also. I'm hoping that Ariana and I can get back to where we were. It's the best relationship I've ever been in.'

Katie's mother Teri cried while telling Schwartz that him making out with Raquel in Mexico was a 'real slap in the face.'

Raquel told Katie that she heard that she 'rage texted' Schwartz when she thought they had made out again.

'You filed for divorce if Schwartz and I made out there or not it's like none of your business,' Raquel said.

Tense talk: 'You filed for divorce if Schwartz and I made out there or not it's like none of your business,' Raquel said

Raquel added that she didn't appreciate Katie threatening to take the dogs from Schwartz.

'You have zero respect,' Katie said. 'No empathy, no respect.'

'Maybe I feel more empathetic for Schwartz than you,' Raquel said.

'I think you should f***ing leave,' Katie said.

When Katie's mother Teri jumped in, Raquel said, 'Oh my god.'

Katie flipped out over Raquel rolling her eyes and being dismissive of her mother. 

'You are a little f***ing c*** is what you are,' Katie yelled. 'I'm so f***ing done with you.'

'I think it's really tacky to have your mom fighting your battles for you,' Sandoval said in a confessional.

Speaking up: When Katie's mother Teri jumped in, Raquel said, 'Oh my god'

Flipped out: 'You are a little f***ing c*** is what you are,' Katie yelled at Raquel after she was dismissive of her mother Teri. 'I'm so f***ing done with you'

'When you were living with Schwartz you were f***Ing banging some other dude,' Sandoval said as he jumped to Raquel's defense. 'How do you think that felt for Schwartz.'

Raquel reached over and told Katie she was sorry that she was hurt. Katie told her to not touch her.

'Sorry that you're f***ing jealous,' Raquel hissed.

Sandoval told Katie she needed to take some accountability. Katie told Schwartz, who was hiding behind a plant, that she was done with him.

'I didn't do anything,' Schwartz protested.

Raquel smirked as Katie grabbed Schwartz to go outside. Raquel followed them, but Katie appeared to push her away.

Stay away: Raquel followed them, but Katie appeared to push her away and told her to leave them alone

'Don't push her,' Schwartz said.

'You don't want me to touch you, I don't want you to touch me,' Raquel said.

Katie later stormed off and left Schwartz outside after he asked her to listen to Raquel's apology.

Vanderpump Rules will return next Wednesday on Bravo with the season finale in which Ariana learns of Tom's affair with Raquel.